By Benedict Slee
I’ve been reflecting on a talk given by one of my fellow missionaries, where she asked the audience to think about whether the person they're interested in dating inspires them. This whole concept of being an inspiration, or finding inspiration in others, is the inspiration for this blog.
I’ve been very gifted throughout my life to have several women who have inspired me, and still continue to do so. Whether they be my own Mother, a longtime friend, or simply women I have met throughout my life on various occasions, these women inspire me to be a better man. So what are some traits of women who inspire me?
1) They are authentically feminine. They have an air of openness and receptivity; they are willing to listen and take to heart what is being spoken in a conversation with them.
2) They are open to receiving assistance. They acknowledge their own beauty and dignity by asking to be escorted home through dark streets at night. They know they are worth protecting, and are not afraid to ask for protection.
3) They are humbly beautiful: they do not put on a show, but simply dress modestly (not without care, but with an understanding of the power of their beauty).
4) They love their family. This is a very important thing to consider if you’re dating someone, as how they treat their family now will be how they treat you if become their spouse.
5) Their smiles are captivating, warming, radiating, enlightening, charming, and most importantly: genuine. A simple genuine smile from a woman, can pierce the heart of many a man and spur him on to deeds of greatness he had not thought himself capable of.
6) You know you are genuinely loved as a person in their presence, without having to be told, because of how they show love in the way they act.
7) Most importantly these genuine women, alive in their feminine beauty, inspire and call me on as a man to be better and to embrace authentic masculinity. A woman of virtue inspires men to be men of virtue.
Women, young women in particular! I encourage you to be women of virtue. Be the ones who inspire men to step up to be true men and not boys, because you are worth protecting. The men of today need your authentic femininity, to show them what it means to be authentically masculine.
Benedict Slee has a Bachelor degree in the Liberal Arts from Campion College, and has spent the last few years organising from the ground-up many projects and activities for a number of ministries building a culture of life in Australia and internationally. Having seen the real need for young people to know their true value and worth, he is helping to build this mission of restoring authentic love in our culture.